STOP WOMEN BATTERY PLEASE!!!!

It is said that love is blind, i dont think everyone just concurs with this statement. Maybe the right way to put it could have been, people who are in love pretend to give a blind eye to very sensitive issues that determines their conjugal life only to realise their mistakes later on when they have committed themselves to wrong partners.

Many ladies, women and girls have found their eyes with endless tears because of the small but costful blunder they did before permanently committing to be wives of their by then lovers. One thing that one should bear in mind is that, its very difficult to change one completely from the way he has been socialised since the day he was born, so instead of thinking that you might manage to change him as per your quality or standard so to speak, your better start tracing how many angles of interception does exist in your reletion! Does the values that you share together with your lover exceed the values you dont share together? If yes, thats your Mr. Right, dont let him go!!If not,then hasten your pace and find another one!!!,he wont change and dont think you will be able to make it happen, Never!!

With this introduction, please my sisters, here is a warning for you: if the man who claim to be your future husband beats you, insults you,ignores you, gives you names, is a womanizer, never think you will change him when you marry him through your own capacity. Thus if you are marrying him knowing that he possesses some notorious characters that you dont appreciate, please dont console yourself that you will be able to change him. However, if you are tolerant and brave enough and you love him more than you love yourself, go on. And you know what? we wont expect any complaint from you in the future,why, because we know you are not blind!!! sorry.

However, it should not be ruled out that there are some men who change to such notorious bahaviours after getting married due to a number of factors. The good news in: GOD will make him to remain the same Mr. Right, pray for that every day of your marriage!!!!.

A simple conversation with a man who beats his wife:

why do you beat your wife? (she has offended me), so are you setting a rule that whoever offends others in the house should be beaten?(yes), how many time have you offended your wife and she has never dared to beat you?(bacause she is a woman),do you want her to be afraid of you or to love you?(of course i want her to love you), how do you expect someone whom is afraid of you to love you?(bacause she is my wife),You know what?Beatig her is a clear explanation that you dont love her and in return she also ends up pretending she love you. So the best conclusion could be YOU DONT LOVE EACH OTHER,STOP PRETENDING PLEASE!!!!

Below is the essay that i believe will help to enlighten us on the issue.

Women Battery

The problem of battered women has only come into the limelight in the past few years, its progression toward public awareness paralleling the growth of the women’s movement. Historically, there has never been any public outcry against the brutality of battered women. But now we are learning the problem is far more pervasive and terrible than it was ever thought to be and that the myths which had previously rationalized why such violence occurred between men and women who supposedly loved each other are untrue.

Every minute in the United States, four women are beaten by a significant other. More than half of all female homicide victims in 1993 were killed by a current or former partner. The Handbook of Family Violence identified five major types of family violence and ranked spouse abuse as almost equal in incidence with physical child abuse, which was ranked number one (Gilliland, James 1997).

All the myths on the battering of women have perpetuated the mistaken notion that the victim has precipitated her own assault. Some of them served as a protection against embarrassment, while others were created to protect rescuers from their own discouragement when they were unsuccessful in stopping the brutality. It is imp

Some of the more popular myths are that the battered woman syndrome affects only a small percentage of the population, drinking causes battering behavior, police can protect the battered women, battered women can always leave home, and long-standing battering relationships can change for the better, and most importantly, once a batterer, always a batterer. In actuality, like rape, battering is a seriously underreported crime. Data on wife beating are difficult to obtain because the incidents usually occur at night, in the home, without witnesses. As for drinking, it is hard to deny there is some association between drinking and battering, but what it exactly is is still not known. It does seem reasonable, however, to suggest that in many cases alcohol is blamed as the precipitating factor, whereas it is only a component in the battering relationship. Studies of women have shown that most believe that the police would not be of any help. In fact, only about 10% of women in these situations have called the police.

One result of learned helplessness can be depression. Another result seems to be a change in the battered woman’s perception of the consequences of violence. Living constantly with fear seems to produce an immunity to the seriousness of violence and death. The first step in stopping learned helplessness would be persuading the battered woman to leave the battering relationship or persuade the batterer to leave. Secondly, battered women need to be taught to change their failure expectancy to reverse a negative cognitive set. They need to understand what success is, to raise their motivation and aspiration levels, to be able to initiate new and more effective responses, so they can learn to control their own lives. Self-esteem and feelings of competence are extremely important in protecting against feelings of helplessness and depression. Women must be able to believe that their behavior will effect what happens to them. Counseling or psychotherapy can teach women to control their own lives an to be able to erase that kind of victim potential. http://www.exampleessays.com/viewpaper/101214.html